Comments for Echoes of My Selves http://ceruleanechoes.com coming to terms with multiplicity Fri, 21 Nov 2008 18:10:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 Comment on Establishing Trust, or Why I Told My Husband by Echo http://ceruleanechoes.com/2008/11/17/establishing-trust-or-why-i-told-my-husband/#comment-118 Echo Thu, 20 Nov 2008 15:23:20 +0000 http://ceruleanechoes.com/?p=106#comment-118 You're welcome. I felt it was important to put out there that there can be positive instances. I think for the most part things can be worked out between couples I meant to mention, and perhaps will in a future post about the hiccups we've had. It's not all wine and roses, and those discussions could be useful for other couples too. I think it's hard for a lot of men. They care about you. They want to lash out at the people who hurt their wives. I don't know where I was going with that exactly. Thank you for the compliments. I hope things work out with your husband...smooth out. You’re welcome. I felt it was important to put out there that there can be positive instances.
I think for the most part things can be worked out between couples I meant to mention, and perhaps will in a future post about the hiccups we’ve had. It’s not all wine and roses, and those discussions could be useful for other couples too.
I think it’s hard for a lot of men. They care about you. They want to lash out at the people who hurt their wives.

I don’t know where I was going with that exactly. Thank you for the compliments. I hope things work out with your husband…smooth out.

]]> Comment on Establishing Trust, or Why I Told My Husband by Emily http://ceruleanechoes.com/2008/11/17/establishing-trust-or-why-i-told-my-husband/#comment-113 Emily Mon, 17 Nov 2008 18:03:05 +0000 http://ceruleanechoes.com/?p=106#comment-113 Wow. What a wonderful story. Thank you for sharing that, especially since I didn't have such a good experience. For me to read this is really cool. My husband is not as open as yours, but since he has seen switching over the years that he has not understood, I think he will come to accept it more and more. Especially if I get "better," meaning better cooperation, no more amnesia-triggering, etc. Cami/Emily Wow. What a wonderful story. Thank you for sharing that, especially since I didn’t have such a good experience. For me to read this is really cool. My husband is not as open as yours, but since he has seen switching over the years that he has not understood, I think he will come to accept it more and more. Especially if I get “better,” meaning better cooperation, no more amnesia-triggering, etc.

Cami/Emily

]]> Comment on Life Times, Memories and Soul Mates by Echo http://ceruleanechoes.com/2008/11/05/life-times-memories-and-soul-mates/#comment-87 Echo Thu, 06 Nov 2008 14:36:08 +0000 http://ceruleanechoes.com/?p=101#comment-87 I found the copy of the resume I had was actually more recent than I thought. It was apparently re-written in 2006 after we left our last job, someone was planning ahead! I've seen "The Fountain" and I thought it was amazing. I should put it on my Yule list. I loved the themes within the movie. In other things, if I remember *L*, I've got the intention to write about my discovery of the DID the idea was sparked by something I read on your blog. I just have to remember...so at some point I should get to it in amongst everything else. I found the copy of the resume I had was actually more recent than I thought. It was apparently re-written in 2006 after we left our last job, someone was planning ahead!

I’ve seen “The Fountain” and I thought it was amazing. I should put it on my Yule list. I loved the themes within the movie.

In other things, if I remember *L*, I’ve got the intention to write about my discovery of the DID the idea was sparked by something I read on your blog. I just have to remember…so at some point I should get to it in amongst everything else.

]]> Comment on Life Times, Memories and Soul Mates by Emily http://ceruleanechoes.com/2008/11/05/life-times-memories-and-soul-mates/#comment-86 Emily Thu, 06 Nov 2008 13:54:07 +0000 http://ceruleanechoes.com/?p=101#comment-86 Couple comments. I agree about the resume thing - I have a copy of nearly every resume I have ever created. It is strange to look back on some of them, because I feel I am not the author. I feel like I am looking at someone else's life experiences, but someone I feel intimate with. Neat feeling but somewhat disconcerting. Also, the idea of reincarnation of soul mates - I saw a good movie a while back called The Fountain. Three stories set in three different times, where a man tries to save his wife from dying. Some people loved it, others didn't, but I liked that feeling of knowing but the disconnect. http://www.netflix.com/Movie/The_Fountain/70051673?trkid=496751 Emily Couple comments. I agree about the resume thing - I have a copy of nearly every resume I have ever created. It is strange to look back on some of them, because I feel I am not the author. I feel like I am looking at someone else’s life experiences, but someone I feel intimate with. Neat feeling but somewhat disconcerting.

Also, the idea of reincarnation of soul mates - I saw a good movie a while back called The Fountain. Three stories set in three different times, where a man tries to save his wife from dying. Some people loved it, others didn’t, but I liked that feeling of knowing but the disconnect.

http://www.netflix.com/Movie/The_Fountain/70051673?trkid=496751

Emily

]]> Comment on Still no Therapy by Echo http://ceruleanechoes.com/2008/10/29/still-no-therapy/#comment-85 Echo Wed, 05 Nov 2008 18:40:09 +0000 http://ceruleanechoes.com/?p=96#comment-85 That's a great idea. Yeah, it is very annoying, especially with things which have been going on. I've not given up on therapy. I'm just not going to worry about it until later. We're doing other things now and have other plans, and we'll revisit later, at our convenience. I'm not going to jump through hoops for them. Much as I miss Elsie...it seems like her hands are tied and she's done as much as she can, which is a lot getting our bill reduced from $250 to $140, and all the rest of it. I'm actually looking to go back to work...and it seems to done wonders for our entire outlook all around. That’s a great idea.
Yeah, it is very annoying, especially with things which have been going on. I’ve not given up on therapy. I’m just not going to worry about it until later.
We’re doing other things now and have other plans, and we’ll revisit later, at our convenience. I’m not going to jump through hoops for them. Much as I miss Elsie…it seems like her hands are tied and she’s done as much as she can, which is a lot getting our bill reduced from $250 to $140, and all the rest of it.

I’m actually looking to go back to work…and it seems to done wonders for our entire outlook all around.

]]> Comment on Still no Therapy by jigsaw analogy http://ceruleanechoes.com/2008/10/29/still-no-therapy/#comment-84 jigsaw analogy Sun, 02 Nov 2008 12:51:02 +0000 http://ceruleanechoes.com/?p=96#comment-84 that really sucks about your therapist's office not letting you make an appointment. you'd think that, dealing with people who have mental health problems, they'd get the notion that it's more important for people to get treated than for them to get all of the money right away. if i ever hit the lottery, i am *so* starting up a series of community centers for multiples, with lots of things, but especially where there would be a group of therapists who offered therapy for a truly affordable sliding scale or no fees for those who had no money. because from what i've seen, this is that really sucks about your therapist’s office not letting you make an appointment. you’d think that, dealing with people who have mental health problems, they’d get the notion that it’s more important for people to get treated than for them to get all of the money right away.

if i ever hit the lottery, i am *so* starting up a series of community centers for multiples, with lots of things, but especially where there would be a group of therapists who offered therapy for a truly affordable sliding scale or no fees for those who had no money. because from what i’ve seen, this is

]]> Comment on Multiplicity and Television by Echo http://ceruleanechoes.com/2008/10/20/multiplicity-and-television/#comment-83 Echo Thu, 30 Oct 2008 13:29:17 +0000 http://ceruleanechoes.com/?p=90#comment-83 That's a very good point. That’s a very good point.

]]> Comment on Still no Therapy by Echo http://ceruleanechoes.com/2008/10/29/still-no-therapy/#comment-82 Echo Thu, 30 Oct 2008 13:26:21 +0000 http://ceruleanechoes.com/?p=96#comment-82 Thanks. I'd seen yours while I was looking for information on helping SOs deal with partners who are multiple. And thank you for the compliment on the phrasing. I'm more than happy for it to be used (with attribution). Thank you also for showing me that I haven't put a contact page up. I meant to but things escape me sometimes. Thanks. I’d seen yours while I was looking for information on helping SOs deal with partners who are multiple.

And thank you for the compliment on the phrasing. I’m more than happy for it to be used (with attribution).

Thank you also for showing me that I haven’t put a contact page up. I meant to but things escape me sometimes.

]]> Comment on Still no Therapy by Emily http://ceruleanechoes.com/2008/10/29/still-no-therapy/#comment-81 Emily Thu, 30 Oct 2008 13:14:35 +0000 http://ceruleanechoes.com/?p=96#comment-81 Hi Echo I just found your blog and am wandering around. I can't find an email or a more appropriate way to say hi and as a question, so forgive this comment here. I just LOVE your comment: "Flames will be used to light the ritual fire and roast marshmallows." Do you mind if I use that quote on my blog, with attribution to you? I am about to post an entry by a particularly sarcastic individual in my little coterie of selves, and there is a real concern that it will generate flames (some are afraid, the author is donning the flame proof suit for the potential fun...)...and then I run across this wonderful quote from you! My best Emily Hi Echo

I just found your blog and am wandering around. I can’t find an email or a more appropriate way to say hi and as a question, so forgive this comment here.

I just LOVE your comment:

“Flames will be used to light the ritual fire and roast marshmallows.”

Do you mind if I use that quote on my blog, with attribution to you? I am about to post an entry by a particularly sarcastic individual in my little coterie of selves, and there is a real concern that it will generate flames (some are afraid, the author is donning the flame proof suit for the potential fun…)…and then I run across this wonderful quote from you!

My best
Emily

]]> Comment on Multiplicity and Television by Emily http://ceruleanechoes.com/2008/10/20/multiplicity-and-television/#comment-80 Emily Thu, 30 Oct 2008 13:09:24 +0000 http://ceruleanechoes.com/?p=90#comment-80 I use humor a lot too, but I wonder about the whole TV thing. Even if they get it right, will the audience be able to differentiate between what is humor and what is "real"? See, humor is often used to *explain* and educate - it makes the topic more understand able. But, humor often stereotypes to make a point...and we are trying to get away from stereotypes. Double-edged sword. Emily I use humor a lot too, but I wonder about the whole TV thing. Even if they get it right, will the audience be able to differentiate between what is humor and what is “real”?

See, humor is often used to *explain* and educate - it makes the topic more understand able. But, humor often stereotypes to make a point…and we are trying to get away from stereotypes.

Double-edged sword.

Emily

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